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Quote of the Day
Wednesday, July 05, 2006
A few months ago I posted about the tension I was feeling, that knot in my stomach that wouldn't go away, the throbbing in my mind that grew stronger and louder as I contemplated all that I needed to accomplish before we moved to Midwestern State. When I'm really, really stressed, I stop breathing normally -- it's like my lungs won't fully inflate, and my breathing is shallow and uneven.
For the past week, I've never felt better. I'm breathing like a real, live person again, and it feels heavenly. I'm sleeping! I'm eating well! I'm taking walks without feeling like I should be doing something "productive!" I'm playing with ST and really concentrating on him, listening to his stories and funny phrases (newest phrase: instead of "chill out," ST says "chill yourself down!"). I went to Mass on Sunday and didn't pray about anything academic. I attended a music festival this weekend with my family and didn't once think about my dissertation. When I sit down at my desk these days, I don't have the sense of dread that I will have to stay planted here until another page is churned out. I am thinking about things I want to think about, instead of dwelling on things I have to think about.
Everyone told me that life changes after the dissertation defense is successfully concluded, and they were right. It is a different world.
Today I am especially wishing for the dawning of a new day for Ragey and ABDmom. Give 'em all you've got, ladies, and then? Breathe.