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Monday, June 12, 2006
I've Got a Crush on You
Is it OK to have a high-schoolish crush on a committee member? (Wait -- don't answer that!)
I just returned from a meeting with the outside member of my dissertation committee. I try to meet with him every three months or so, just to keep him in the loop about departmental procedures, deadlines, progress, etc. Every time I meet with him, I get this fluttery feeling in my chest, my face gets hot, and I smile bigger and laugh more often (which is hard to do, since I already laugh a lot). I don't get nervous around him, but I definitely get that "oh-he's-so-great-I-hope-I'm-not-a-dork" feeling.
His attributes (to substantiate the crush):
1.) He's a brilliant and world-renowned legal scholar;
2.) He's a native German speaker, so has a slight accent that is heavenly;
3.) He has a silly sense of humor that totally meshes with mine;
4.) He talks about how great his life is, but not in an arrogant way -- more in a "I can't believe I'm so lucky" type of way;
5.) He's handsome in a very European way;
6.) Unlike a lot of European scholars I know, he's engaging and very human, not hesitating to get carried away talking about his beautiful, smart wife or his dogs;
7.) My advisor (Prof. G.) "interviewed" him for me before I asked him to be on my committee, and Prof. G. thinks he's fantastic, too. With a sly grin, Prof. G. described Outside Member as "dashing." How appropriate!
8.) He thinks the work I'm doing is interesting, and admires me for taking on a huge subject most people in my discipline don't touch;
9.) When I enter his office, he jumps up from his chair, holds his arms up, and says, "Ah, [My First Name]! How wonderful to see you again!" Then he does the air-kiss on the cheeks thing;
10.) At my prospectus defense he was the one who did most of the talking (because he's the one who knows the most about one of the processes I write about), and a lot of his sentences began with, "You know, [My First Name] is right about this..."
See, what's not to love?
So, now I'm going to be on Cloud Nine for the rest of the day, or at least until about 6:00pm, when my real Prince Charming comes home. (And T is, mostly, a prince. If only he had an accent...)